You already are special, so stop trying.
"Most of our energy goes into upholding our importance. If we were capable of losing some of that importance, two extraordinary things would happen to us. One, we would free our energy from trying to maintain the illusory idea of our grandeur; and two, we would provide ourselves with enough energy to catch a glimpse of the actual grandeur of the universe." Carlos Castaneda
If you were to really slow down and take an objective look at yourself from the outside, would you become aware of how much time and energy you spend trying to prove to those around you, and perhaps to yourself, how special you are? You know the people who truly have secure attachment style because they are less likely consumed by having to justify their importance. They just are.... worthy, significant, valued, humble without even bragging or broadcasting about it. If the world were in habited by more people like this, there would likely be more harmony, sharing and collaborative creating with less competition, fighting and imitation.
So how do we get there?
Right now, in this present moment, try naming something about you, a character trait, a special gift, a talent unique to you that you were born with that will always be part of you and never goes away. How do you know that? How are you exuding, sharing, exhibiting that daily? Where does that knowing reside in your body? If you were reminded of that every morning, could you go through your day with more security, more confidence, more safety in your actions? I challenge you to look at yourself in the mirror, really look into your own reflection, every morning and say to yourself "(Your Name), I see, feel, and know that you are (insert trait)." Try it for a week straight and notice the difference.
This is where I share MY TRUTH.... authentically, some of my thoughts, inspirations and insights that might be of service for whomever has interest and need.